Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Behaving Poorly Typically Causes Others to Respond in Kind.
When One Behaves Poorly, Such Conduct Likely Causes/Enables the Same Behavior In Others With Whom He/She Interacts.
For instance in dealings between a parent and a child:
Parents enable children's temper-tantrums when the parent loses his/her temper with the child.
Or, in general:
People enable the temper-tantrums of others when they lose their own temper with another who is prone to such behavior.
Explanation in the case of a parent and a child, if necessary.
Typically, when a child becomes upset or enraged, they want to lash out against the source of their frustration which is often a parent. When, in response to the child’s enraged behavior, the parent also [further] loses his/her temper and also becomes enraged or was of such a mind-set initially and such anger becomes compounded, then the child has successfully accomplished his/her likely goal of trying to get the parent upset as well in response to any scolding (or whatever).
So, when losing one’s temper with a child which consequently causes the child to become upset, the child will attempt to also cause the parent to become even more upset. It’s sort of a downward spiral type of thing with the negative energy feeding upon itself. Therefore, when conversing with or scolding a child, the parent should not lose his/her temper, because such a loss of rational control by the parent will only likely make the child respond by trying to upset the parent further as well.
AVT (February, 2011)