Monday, October 19, 2020

Demands for Respect are Rarely Heeded

Demanding respect from others rarely brings about the desired result.  Generally, true respect is earned, not demanded.  Consequently, respect cannot merely be demanded or brought about through strong-arm tactics.  

To make such demands or attempts to intimidate others for any desired respect may cause others to fear the one making the demands – that is, if such demands do not merely result in ridicule.  While many of a diminished mental capacity may believe that fear equates to respect, fear is not respect.  If anything, fear more likely breeds a lack of personal respect.  Respect is earned through actions worthy of it, not through intimidation techniques or screaming for others to give respect.    

AVT (October 2020)

Saturday, October 17, 2020

Professing a Preferred Identity Only Masks Others’ More Realistic Perceptions

When one insists that they be identified in a preferred manner – for whatever the reason, more than likely such only exacerbates the many unwanted perceptions held by the others.  And, at best, the insistence of one’s preferred identity only masks the more realistic perceptions held by others – if the others are polite enough to mask their likely realistic perceptions of the first party.  Because, making such a demand of others typically only invites the others to perceive the first party as an oddball (for even making such demands) and rarely are the resulting perceptions of the type sought by the first party.   

To put the matter differently, one cannot control how others in the world perceive anything – as a general rule.  Much less, can anyone typically control how folks perceive others.  Those who attempt to control or unduly influence the thoughts of others show their likely ignorance of the human thought-process.  Because to tell others how to perceive anything, especially related to one’s own personality, likely only causes the others to think how weird or insecure the first person must be to make such demands. 

As a mild example of how perceptions typically diverge, and regardless of any demands to the contrary, merely ask a friend to profess how they desire or believe any others in the world actually perceive the friend.  Only rarely will any self-professed identity of the friend match the perceived identity of the friend by others.  When demanding or trying to force any perceptions by or onto others, the views diverge even more drastically.   

To force any identity in the minds of others typically only makes the others think less of the one trying to dictate their identity to the world.  This is a reality clearly unknown to anyone who attempts to force any preferred perceptions of themselves to the world and/or dictate any perceptions of oneself subsequently held by the world.  Much to the chagrin of commercial advertisers and fascists alike, and while first impressions may account for something with the power of suggestion always in play, people will perceive others how they prefer to perceive the others, regardless of what is demanded of their perceptions. 

AVT  (October 2020)   

  

 

See:  “Push me, Pull you”; located at:  http://poetrybyadamvernontrotter.blogspot.com/2014/09/push-me-pull-you.html.   

Monday, June 8, 2020

Bridge has Sailed



Bridge has Sailed: A mash-up of the clich├ęs/metaphors “water under the bridge” and “that ship has sailed.”  Such as, that “bridge has sailed,” when one with an arguably significant internet footprint is considering removing his internet footprint altogether.  Or, whenever someone considers alleviating a problem which likely cannot be undone after the fact. 

AVT  (June 2020)